Sparklers create a wow factor for weddings

Photo courtesy of Storybook Wedding Photography

It’s getting close to “fireworks day” and it reminds me how much I like using sparklers for the first dance, last dance or the “Grand Exit” at weddings.

If you are having your wedding or reception in a city that allows fireworks, consider using sparklers to create an inexpensive “Wow Factor” for  your special day.

I asked Shandelle Wertz Girdley, owner of BuySparklers.com to share her best tips on how to use sparklers in a safe and fabulous way for weddings. Here are her words of wisdom:

“1 – Check with your venue first.
Please check with your venue coordinator to see if sparklers are permitted. Most locations won’t mind you using them outside, but it’s best to ask first!

2 – Buy quality metal wire sparklers.
Do not buy bamboo stick sparklers. Bamboo sparklers produce significantly more smoke and will ash off as they burn down the stick. They can be very messy and I don’t recommend them for formal occasions.

3 – Use helpers!
Coach a team of helpers to hand out and light sparklers. Give them BBQ lighters to light the first few sparklers. Then tell them to show people in the crowd how to dip unlit sparklers into lit sparklers. ALSO coach them to hold sparklers UP and AWAY.

4 – Create and control the moment. Lucas Girdley and Celina Montoya
If doing a “tunnel” of sparklers for the bride and groom to run under for their exit…keep the crowd a little more than an arm’s length away. It’s more for show than to literally make a tunnel. A wide tunnel also gives the bride & groom enough room to “dash” out without bending over. This will help you get great pictures.

5 – Consult your photographer.
Let your photographer know when and where you are using sparklers. They can be ready to capture the moment…or to stage a few pictures just before or just after the big exit.

6 – Dispose properly.
Use your team of helpers to make sure sparklers are properly disposed. The metal wires will be hot for a few minutes after burning. You should have metal buckets or trays nearby filled with water or sand so the wires can be discarded safely.”

Thanks Shandelle for offering your helpful hints plus (BIG PLUS!) many thanks for offering BridesKnowBest readers a 10% discount on BuySparklers.com for an entire (not including shipping) order. Be sure to use Coupon Code: “10Kathy” to get this great offer.

The BuySparklers website is filled with many types of sparklers, including heart shaped and extra long options. Shandelle mentioned to be sure to order early. Sparklers can only be shipped via Ground Services (because they are flammable, they can’t go on airplanes for overnight or expedited delivery), so don’t wait until the last minute!

With or without fireworks, let yourself “sparkle plenty” on your wedding day!

Top photo: courtesy of Storybook Wedding Photography

Middle photo: courtesy of Advance-Images Photography and BuySparklers.com

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Honeymoon planning tips and ideas

I may be guilty of sterotyping here, but my own experience tells me that if you want to get the groom interested in wedding planning, start with the honeymoon plans first!  Pour some wine and make it a date night to start surfing the web for travel blogs and websites. You will find so much fun and useful information to use for planning what could be the most memorable trip you will ever go on.

Sharing Travel Experiences is an on-line travel magazine that I personally enjoy reading when I want to dream about future travels. I asked their Managing Editor, Andy Hayes, to share some tips for couples planning their honeymoons. This is what he sent (thanks Andy!):

“It’s your honeymoon, so you want it to be absolutely perfect, right? Well, get rid of that notion right now. Travel is rarely uneventful and in fact a little bit of serendipity builds character and makes for a good story when you get home. So many brides and grooms get so worked up over the whole thing that I’d like to share five things you should think about when planning your honeymoon travels. Hopefully they’ll help you plan a honeymoon more in tune with your real needs and expectations.

1) Don’t treat it as a “to do list” item. It’s a celebration. When something nice turns into an obligation and a must-do, it’s not as fun anymore, is it? Stop treating your honeymoon as this massive to do list item that sits on a pedestal waiting for you to take action. Stop watching all those movies filling your head with unrealistic expectations about honeymoons. A honeymoon is a private celebration between the two of you to honor the marriage you’ve just formalized. That’s it. So, how do you want to celebrate?

2) It’s the experience, not the destination. Every year there’s the latest “it” destination. Just because everyone else is there and all the bargains are there, doesn’t mean you should go. Decide what kind of honeymoon holiday you want and then pick a place. Remember, almost all countries have both secluded beaches and cosmopolitan chaos.

3) It’s probably best to involve a professional. You’re probably saying to yourself, “of course he’ll say that, he is one!” Yes, full disclosure applies, but I’m not saying this because I stand to benefit. Having a travel agent or travel concierge involved gives you a layer of insurance. If flights go awry, if the hotel just isn’t suitable, or god forbid there is an accident, you can contact your agent for support and assistance. And for a once-in-a-lifetime holiday, isn’t that a good thing?

4) Make sure you can see the forest and the trees. You know the old proverb about not seeing the forest because of the trees? Well, don’t do that. A lot of couples-to-be get hung up on having rose petals on the bed and a private suite with beach access. But don’t forget the big picture: will you get bored if there’s only the two of you and a beach? Details are important, but so is knowing you have a 20 hour flight in coach class with two connections before you get to those rose petals.

5) There are two of you involved. It goes without saying, but everyone’s needs have to be catered for, so have a frank discussion about what you want and more importantly what you don’t want. This is the beginning of a new chapter of your life, so why not start things off on the right note?”

Check out Andy’s website for further tips on how to make your destination wedding, honeymoon, or any upcoming travels more authentic, rich, and experiential. But before you leave: here are some  choices from STE’s (Sharing Travel Experiences) readers:

STE reader, Denise McVey, highly recommended Santorini, Greece. The spectacular views, food and the friendly citizens created a perfect site for her destination wedding and honeymoon. Photo by Navin75.

Vista Verde Ranch near Steamboat Springs, Colorado was recommended by Amberlece and Joshua Oldham. “Great skiing, horseback riding, delicious food and log cabin housing” were some of the highlights of a “perfect” honeymoon site for this adventurous twosome. www.vistaverde.com

Liz Caskey recommended the Northeastern beaches of Brazil in the state of Ceara. Photo by Jairo BD

Elephant trekking anyone? Chiang Mai, Thailand makes a great base for touring the “Golden Triangle” where the borders of Burma, Laos and Thailand meet.

Tuscany continues to be one of the most popular honeymoon destinations in the world. Villa La Borghetta is well known for it’s pampering atmosphere in the heart of this beautiful region.

Andy recommended Maldives. Located southwest of India, the water off the Maldivian coast is known for breathtaking snorkeling and diving spots.

And finally… the top picture in this post is of the dining room at The Sooke Harbour House on Victoria Island, British Columbia, Canada. This is where I went on my honeymoon. Organic gardens, edible flowers adorning your delicious meals, hills in background and harbor in foreground, with comfortable rooms makes this a top pick for those who like a more intimate setting for their special celebration for two. www.sookeharbourhouse.com

We’d love to hear your recommendations. Happy Honeymoon Planning Nearly Weds!

PS: you might enjoy reading one of our past posts: Honeymoons – the intimate celebration

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Tips for an Earth Friendly Wedding

In the midst of the “it’s all about me” moments of wedding planning (believe me I had more than my share of these!) be sure to step back and ask yourself if you can be a bit more Earth friendly with your celebrations. The carbon footprint of most weddings is rather… huge; I mean h-u-g-e, so here are a few tips on how to be a little kinder to our planet while still creating a true celebration of love.

1) Work with Eco-conscious wedding vendors. Be guided by event professionals who run their business with our planet in mind. When interviewing potential wedding vendors, ask them for suggestions on how to design an earth friendly event. If they have no suggestions, maybe it’s time to interview the next candidate. Google “green or eco-friendly wedding vendors” and you will find many vendors that are prepared to help you “go green” on your wedding day.

2) Choose a beautiful environment for your celebration. The more beautiful the natural landscape, the less decorations you need to make your wedding a visually stunning event. A beach, a field of poppies, a park, a forest, require little to no embellishment. Less embellishment – less carbon footprint.

3) Go Local - If you hire people and purchase products produced close to your wedding venue, there is less gas used to get them to your celebration. Also consider how far your guests must travel when designing an eco-friendly wedding. Destination weddings are fun but clearly not eco-friendly if you have 150 guests on planes. Encourage car-pooling or coordinate transportation services that will bring your guests to your celebration in one bus instead of many, many cars.

4) Go Organic – Ask your caterer to use pesticides-free products while creating your wedding menu. Products from local organic farmers is the best choice for taste and guilt-free celebrations.

5) Recycle - Ask your wedding venue and caterer what they will do to recycle waste from your wedding.

6) Use the internet - Shopping on-line saves gas. So do your wedding planning on-line as much as possible. Ask your wedding vendors to send you information via the internet. It not only saves paper but it is a more efficient way to maintain documentation of proposals and contracts.

Make your own wedding website to keep all your guests informed of all things wedding.  This is a great way to save paper and postage. You can even ask your guests to RSVP (and select meal choices) on many of the wedding website templates that are available.

You may even consider making e-vites; if not for your “official wedding invitations,” consider for all the other celebrations surrounding the big day (Engagement Party, Bachelorette Party, Rehearsal Dinner, Post-Wedding brunch, etc.). There are such cute on-line Save-the-Date and Thank You cards that can include your personal love story and photos. Just ask yourself, “how can I save a few pieces of paper and yet still stay in contact with my friends and family.”

7) Share your video and pictures on-line. Work with photographers and videographers that can help you share their work with your friends and family on-line.

8) Multi-purpose – Purchase wedding decorations you can use again. Potted plants used as altar and table centerpieces can be used to decorate your own home or patio; or give them as thank you gifts to your family and friends. My grandfather created a wedding garden from my wedding flowers that 20 years later is still beautiful. Use framed pictures as decor; you have the pictures, they are hanging on your wall, now just take them to your wedding for not only great centerpieces but great conversation pieces.

9) Purchase or rent pre-loved items – Clothing, jewelry, decorations, furniture, and dishware all can be found on many websites, garage sales, thrift stores, antique/vintage shoppes, and rental companies.

Having your bridal party dress in clothes that they can really (I mean REALLY) wear again, is another way to reduce waste.

10) Plant a tree – At my wedding my husband and I planted six trees in honor of those who had made such a positive impact on our relationship (the people who brought us together, my parents, and a few other significant people). We then donated another tree to this regional park every wedding anniversary, in essence creating our own “grove of love.” This took away a little (just a little!) of the guilt I had for the huge paper wedding invitations we sent. We coordinated everything through the park system with just a few phone calls and of course a generous donation.

11) Eco-conscious Favors - The most Eco-friendly favor is no favor at all. If you can’t fathom not offering your guests a little take-away, consider something that they will actually use and not throw away. Be conscious of the packaging (is it minimal and bio-degradable?) as well as how the product itself was made.

There are so many great websites to help you plan an Earth Friendly wedding; here are a few of my favorites:

The Green Bride Guide

Eco Wedding – A Resource Guide for Ecologically Aware Weddings

Earth Friendly Weddings

Wedvert: The Modern Bride’s Guide to a Green Wedding

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Dancing with the Stars creates Five Star Wedding Fun

The only criticism I have ever heard about Orange County wedding planner, Laurie Davies of 5 Star Weddings & Events Inc.,  is that she should rename her company to 10 Star Weddings and Events.  I have had the pleasure to speak to many of Laurie’s brides and all they say is: “WOWIE, WOW, WOW WOW!!!”

Jhordice and Mauricio Munoz’s wedding is a perfect example of the “WOW factor weddings” Laurie creates every weekend. This lavish October wedding had show-stopping entertainment.  Laurie hired 10 of the finest ballroom dancers in America, including some from the hit TV Show, Dancing with the Stars, to perform throughout the wedding reception. The jaw-dropping dancing inspired all the guests to try their own special dance moves, which might not have looked as perfect as the professionals, but definitely a sight to see!

And if this wasn’t enough fun for Jhordice and Mauricio’s  lucky, lucky, guests, a personalized version of the Newlywed Game, starring the brand new newlyweds, left everyone hysterically laughing. 

For more wedding eye candy, go to Laurie’s blog at Five Star Weddings & Events and Beautiful Day Photography’s website, who shared these beautiful photos with us.

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Will your wedding reflect the best of your character?

A few days ago I was watching a wedding video on-line and the officiant said to the couple at the altar: “may this celebration reflect your character.” Wow! I have thought about those six amazing words  for the last three days.  For those who are preparing for the big day, take time to really look at your plans and ask yourself: “Will our wedding reflect our character?” Maybe, just maybe, you’ll find that your wedding planning has become focused more on the color of your napkins, than on the two of you celebrating your union, surrounded by those you love. I might suggest you add a few words and ask yourself another question: “Will our wedding reflect the best of our character?”

You and your guests will cherish the memory of a heartfelt ceremony so much more than a vague memory (if any) of the floral centerpieces. Your beloved will remember the letter you have had hand-delivered (just before the wedding begins) that shares your heart and why you love him/her so much; they will likely not remember anything about the accessories you wear. Your parents will never forget the last words you say to them before you walk down the aisle. Make sure they are something like “I love you and thank you”

At your reception, guests will remember how joy-filled you are or not. If you are pouting over the overdone chicken and forget that you can never get this moment back… you’ve not only ruined the celebration for yourself, but for everyone around you. It is your energy, not the chicken, that will make or break your celebration.

The frills of most weddings are nice, but the character of your celebration is what can create a heart-song for you and all those lucky enough to attend your true celebration of love. So in the midst of your wedding planning, just keep on asking yourself: “Will our wedding reflect the best of our character?” If you do this, you will have a day that all will remember with a smile on their face and joy in their heart.

Read a story about one bride who truly lived this advice: My Favorite Bride and you also may enjoy Be in the Moment for some tips on how to have a wonderful wedding day.

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Unabashed love for Heidi’s Ring Bearer Pillows and Fabric Flowers

Remember Heidi with Unabashed Bliss and her incredibly romantic engagement story she shared with us (Plan B – A Perfect Proposal)? Well, she’s amazed us again with her adorable handmade wedding ring pillows and fabric flower hair/dress accessories!  Her ETSY shop is packed full of incredibly gorgeous ring pillows and fabric hair flowers.  I’m smitten with this burlap pillow.  S-M-I-T-T-E-N!

and crushin’ on these pillows too!

and her flowers…

She hand-cuts each and every fabric petal, perfectly forming them to represent natural looking petals. She doesn’t short cut with hot glue, hand stitching each petal into place. No way would I have the patience to do all that detailed work! Although they are obviously beautiful hair accessories for you and your bridal party, these flowers could be used for so much more. Use these pretties to add a finishing touch on your dress, purse, guest book, or flower girl basket. Heidi says she loves to create custom orders so each bride can have exactly what they want. And she offers big discounts to brides with bulk orders. Heidi definitely proves my theory: Brides, unabashedly, Know Best!
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Wish Upon A Wedding

If someone told you that your beloved would die before your third wedding anniversary, would you still want to get married? My guess is most of you would say yes.

Unfortunately, I do know what it feels like to lose your spouse way too soon. When I look back on my short but oh so sweet marriage, what I know for sure is that I am happy that my husband and I had celebrated our relationship surrounded by friends and family. Weddings are life-affirming celebrations of love and the precious memories of my wedding keep a smile in my broken, but slowly mending, heart.

Although I didn’t know before my wedding that I would lose my husband shortly afterwards, there are many people who do know that they will have only a short time to create happy memories together. With the pure exhaustion of dealing with a terminal illness, along with the health care bills that all too often bankrupt Americans (over 60% of all bankruptcies in the United States  are related to medical bills), there are few resources left for a wedding. Wish Upon a Wedding is the love child of wedding specialist, Liz Guthrie, who recognized that there needed to be an organization that granted wedding assistance to  couples challenged by a terminal illness. Liz explains the impetus of Wish Upon A Wedding: “Many couples have endured life threatening disease and illness, but stay together through it all, offering support and encouragement to their partners. I want to be certain that this kind of love is celebrated. By celebrating the courage & spirit of these couples, it is our hope that others facing similar situations will find hope, strength, and the promise of eternal love.”

Liz gathered the support of some of the best of the best in the wedding industry and together they officially launched this non-profit organization in January 2010. Led by National President, Sasha Souza, they currently have 20 chapters officially open for business and there are many new chapters in the development stage throughout the world.

The organizers of Wish Upon A Wedding are happy to accept applications from those who would like a wedding wish granted, and those who would like to be a part of the Wedding Granter Team. There are many ways to help this organization, all of which can be found on their website. I hope all BKB readers will contribute to this fabulous endeavor. Visit their website to see how you can help make dreams come true.

Wish Upon A Wedding

www.wishuponawedding.org

info@wishuponawedding.org

(877) 305-WISH

Mailing Address:

Po Box 1141

Santa Clara, CA 95052

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Wedding flower tips from the “Florist to the Stars” – Mark Held of Mark’s Garden

Mark Held of Mark's Garden

Mark Held of MARK'S GARDEN

If you ask who is the “Florist to the Stars,” the insiders would tell you it is MARK’S GARDEN in Sherman Oaks, California. The owners, Mark Held and Richard David, along with their premiere staff, created the floral designs for such notable weddings as Khloe Kardashian and Lamar Odom’s, Fergie and Josh Duhamel’s, Ellen DeGeneres and Portia de Rossi’s, Kathryn Heigl and Josh Kelley’s and believe me, the list seems quite endless.  For two decades MARK’S GARDEN has been creating fairytale weddings for many lucky couples.

Mark and the rest of his talented team are currently preparing for several extravagant Valentine’s weddings and finishing their 17th year planning the floral designs for the Academy Awards Governor’s ball. Held was kind enough to take time out of his busy schedule to speak with me and share his tips for brides planning their wedding flowers.

Here are Mark’s tips…

(1)  “Before you start looking at your flowers, you first need to be realistic and confront your budget. If you have a small budget but want to invite 300 people, you cannot expect to be able to spend a lot of money on flowers. If you want more flexibility with your limited dollars, think about having a smaller guest list and a more intimate wedding.

(2)  The best way to save money on flowers and décor is to choose a venue that is already beautiful, that needs little enhancement. A beautiful garden, a panoramic view, a beautifully appointed room are all places where you don’t need to add too much to the scenery to have a beautiful wedding.

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simone and martin Photography

(3) Everyone has a budget, even people who tell me they do not have a budget, have one. When you initiate a conversation with any of your vendors, be very upfront on what your budget is for their specific service. It is a waste of time for you or your vendors if you don’t do this. If they show you a proposal for something you cannot afford, you’ve just wasted your time and you haven’t seen what the vendor is capable of doing within your budget.

held Gores bouquet sample 2(4) Don’t skimp on your bridal bouquet. This is your day; you should get to have a beautiful bouquet to hold. However, don’t choose a bouquet that overpowers you or your dress. We want to see you first when you are walking down the aisle, not your bouquet. You are the star of the show. Brides come in every shape and size and your flowers need to honor that. You may see a bouquet in a magazine that you love, but it may take away from your own personal beauty. Make sure that you choose your dress first before you even begin a design conversation about your bouquet.

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Gertrude & Mabel Photography

(5) Boutonnières are not corsages! I personally think men’s boutonnières should be simple and small. And bows on men’s boutonnières, I’m sorry, that is just one big no no to me.

(6) Don’t mix too many colors in your wedding flowers; it can really start looking like a circus. I think one or two colors are best. You can still make a bright and colorful statement with two great stand-out colors, but beyond that, it’s hard to successfully execute an elegant design.

(7) Bring tear sheets and pictures of wedding flowers you love and those you hate to your design consultation (mark appropriately so they know which you love and which you hate!). Bring material swatches of your bridesmaids’ dresses and your wedding dress (if you can get it). Bring pictures of all wedding party attire and your wedding and reception venue (if your florist is not familiar with the location(s)). The more information you give to your florist, the better they will be able to design something you will love.

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Gertrude & Mabel Photography

(8) Be flexible with the type of flowers you want to use at your wedding. You may have one specific flower in mind but that flower may not hold up well in the heat of your outdoor wedding. Hopefully you are working with a floral designer that will educate you on what flowers will be the best for your special day given all the elements like the seasonal availability of flowers, the cost of the flowers (in terms of honoring your budget), and how that flower will hold up in your specific environment and in the overall look you want to achieve.

(9) Head wreaths are not a great idea for your tiny attendants. If your flower girl is under 5,  they will likely take it off as fast as their mother tries to put it back on again!  For flower girls under 3, consider giving them a very lightweight basket with a small arrangement in it instead of petals to throw. Heavy baskets get given to mothers to carry and petals often confuse little ones and rarely thrown, the way you want them to be thrown, when the flower girl is too young to understand.

(10) Most tall centerpieces are more expensive than low ones, so if you are trying to save money, either keep with all low ones or alternate them to save money – maybe 3 low centerpieces for every tall one.

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Yitzhak Dalal, Dalal Photography

(11) Incorporating candles with your centerpieces can stretch your budget and creates a very romantic feel to your wedding. Inexpensive votive candles surrounding your centerpieces can enhance the overall look of any priced centerpiece.

(12) You can never go wrong with a clean classic look.

(13)  Make sure you are listening to your professional floral designer but also be sure that they are listening to you. My brides bring in some very fresh and wonderful ideas. If I were not listening to their creative ideas, I would lose the opportunity to design something truly personal and special for them. If your floral designer is not listening to you, find one that will. On the other hand, make sure you are listening to your designer’s wisdom as well. That is what you are paying for right?  Use the wealth of their experience to create the perfect look for you.”FabulousParties_2x2.4[1]_300_dpi

Thank you Mark for sharing the wealth of your experience with us!

Mark’s aptly named book, Fabulous Parties, will be coming out in paperback in March.

Click here to be directed to MARK’S GARDEN’s website.

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