Posts Tagged ‘Stress free Weddings’

Samantha and Matt’s Surprise Wedding

Monday, September 28th, 2009

The following wedding story is shared by one of my favorite Brides. Samantha and Matt’s very intimate “Surprise Wedding” was quite a hit with their guests who thought they were coming over for a casual BBQ! This wedding was planned by the Bride and Groom in two weeks and is a wonderful memory for all who had the honor to witness the beginning of a magnificent marriage.

The most amazing day with the most amazing man…..

By Samantha Lewis

After Matt had asked my two children, Nathan, age 12 and Katie, age 10, for their permission to marry me and had received enthusiastic reactions, wedding plans began. Discussions ran from a quick trip to Lake Tahoe in Nevada with the children for a small lakeside wedding to a more formalized affair with 150 of our closest friends. In creating a guest list, it occurred to us that our families alone accounted for two dozen attendees….

Since I had experienced a traditional wedding, my priorities shifted to my future husband’s ideal wedding. He had made it clear that gift registries and seating charts were not in his future wedding plans and when asked what he wanted, he jokingly answered, “just you, the kids and our families.” We immediately began planning our surprise wedding to take place in less than two weeks at our family’s “Engagement Celebration Barbecue.” The only other people who knew of our secret wedding plans were my children, our minister and my dear friend, Leslie, who took the photographs.

When people talk about a wedding taking 12 months or 18 months to plan…. well, all I can say is that ours was done in less than two weeks and it was amazing! Matt and I raced off to the florist and bakery and placed orders. While Matt and Nathan were fitted for tuxedos, my daughter and I found perfect dresses – off the rack! My dear friend agreed to photograph our wedding and since Matt is an audiophile, music was no problem. We live near the ocean and it was instantly agreed that our backdrop would be the local harbor. We met with our minister, wrote our vows, double swore the children to secrecy and invited our families to a casual backyard Barbecue- “to celebrate our engagement”.

Family began arriving, some driving as many as 2-1/2 hours…. all dressed in shorts and summer dresses for the casual barbecue. My mother, who was quite psychic, asked my son upon entering the front door, “Are we attending a wedding today?” to which my son replied, “No way, Mimi!” After a couple of hours of chatting and hors d’oeuvres in the backyard, Matt and Nathan disappeared upstairs for a quick change into tuxedos while my daughter and I retreated upstairs to put on gowns. Matt and Nathan reappeared downstairs and inquired, “Who wants to go to a wedding?” to which there were enthusiastic shouts and screams of delight. Matt herded everyone into cars to caravan to the harbor while my three sisters and Matt’s two sisters raced upstairs to congratulate, hug and apply the typical last minute girly-touches to make-up, hair and dresses. We then proceeded to the harbor.

The day was amazing….. clear, light breezes and warm sun – the sounds of sailboat lines clanging against the posts were like our own wind chime orchestra. Vows were said to one another and to the children, photographs were taken and everyone returned back to our home for a wonderful backyard Barbecue of Shish Kabobs! I wouldn’t do one single thing differently.

BKB: Isn’t that a great story? Do you have another Surprise Wedding to share with us? Please do!

Upstaged by My Wedding Cake

Sunday, September 20th, 2009

Mom and Dad zMe and Marv

If we are to be honest – 99% of all brides want to be the star of their wedding day. You don’t want a bridesmaid to be hotter, you don’t want your larger than life mother-in-law to steal the show and you have prayed for the last 6 months that your husband’s ex-girlfriend won’t show up and make a scene… or something like that. For me, my reality was that I was upstaged by an inanimate object – my wedding cake.

People did not ask for pictures of my husband and I after our wedding – they asked for pictures of our wedding cake. People who I didn’t even know but had heard about “The Wedding Cake” asked me for pictures of the cake. It was… weird. I had a famous cake.

my wedding cake

Fess up - you wanted to see the cake - not us! Right?

Now in today’s standards, my cake is clearly outdated but several decades ago, it was quite special. The first reason why my cake was such a hit was that there were 7 different flavors of cake hidden underneath the whipped cream frosting – key lime cheesecake, Swedish Princess, chocolate decadence, carrot cake, peanut butter cheesecake, banana nut cake, and a diabetic spice cake for some diabetic relatives. My wedding cake was made by my parents who do most every thing food-related a bit over the top… actually, way over the top! I had 125 guests, the cake should have served about 250 and by the end of the afternoon reception, there was not one bite of cake left. The only piece I got was the one my husband fed me. Our guests, on the other hand, ate several pieces of cake and ran around with forks in their hands eating from their friends’ plates. It was quite a sight to see. It was a fricken’ cake orgy.

The second fun cake related issue was that I did not feed my husband cake… I fed him cake batter! Yes, not a healthy choice and don’t try this at home if you don’t want to risk food poisoning, but my husband had fond memories of his grandmother giving him cake batter so I wanted him to have this little nod to his late nana. In the middle of the reception my mom went and made a simple butter cake batter, placed it in a beautiful glass bowl and hid it underneath the cake table for the big reveal. Right after we did the traditional cutting of the cake, I slipped my hands underneath the table and brought this batter filled bowl out. I then fed my husband his favorite treat (in a large acrylic spoon decorated by mom of course.) To say that my husband loved this surprise would be a great understatement! He walked around for the rest of the reception with bowl in hand and the biggest grin on his face.

Yup… I was clearly not the star of my wedding but I love every vivid memory of watching people go crazy over my parents’ creation, not me – the cake!

Be In The Moment

Saturday, September 5th, 2009

Bride and Groom laughing at altar

Image by Emin Kuliyev, Emin Photography - www.em34.com

There is one Wedding Coordinator Speech ninety-nine percent of all my Brides and Grooms have endured: “Be in the Moment. Every moment of this day will be so precious. Do not lose a second to worrying about “things” that really don’t matter. Be sure you focus on your mate when you say your vows, look into each other’s eyes when you dance your first dance, have a few moments alone with your parents before you drive away to your new life, etc..” Call all my past clients to hear the rest of this speech. They are tested on this before I allow them to walk down the aisle (just kidding, sort of.) Please, do as I say, not as I did!
I remember all so many moments that I lost on my wedding day. When my husband was saying his personally written vows to me, we might as well have been in a comic strip and the caption cloud above his head would have read: “Blah, blah, blah. Blah, Blah”. I saw his lips moving, I heard words coming out of his mouth, I saw our attendants and guests crying (actually sobbing). I saw our photographer crying. And me? I was thinking, “Wow, this must be good …and there’s Judy and Larry, Mark came without Lynn…and I don’t like the way they set the chairs up.” I was on sensory overload; there was just too much to wrap around my brain.
I was so jealous of one of my clients who told me that when they were up at the altar, she held her groom’s hands and said, “I feel like it’s just me and you here; it’s perfect.” Her groom agreed as he gave his bride a pre-minister-approved kiss — just between each other, not for the 250 guests that had the good fortune of catching a glimpse of two people that truly were in a state of bliss.

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I clearly don’t have all the answers on how to be “in the moment,” but here are a few ideas that might help you:
1) Yoga. Good preparation for wedding day focus and good flexibility for the wedding night. Yoga teaches you to breathe deeply. Breathe deeply, take it all in, and feel the joy.
2) Prayer/meditation. Ask your powers that be, that your attention will be spent on those you love and not on the rubbery chicken potentially served.
3) Love Notes. Write a note to your beloved that tells him why you are honored to become his wife and what you are looking forward to as a married couple. Write notes to your parents, in-laws, bridal party and any other super significant people in your life. Share what it means to you, to be sharing your wedding day with them. Have these notes hand-delivered (good groomsmen task) on your wedding day before all the festivities begin. This begins the big day with the focus on love, gratitude and celebration.
4) Timing. Be sure you have given yourself plenty of preparation time on your wedding day. If you think it takes 1 minute to put your underclothes on, plan that it will take you twenty. It will probably take thirty. I remember a bride who stood at the mirror for thirty-five minutes in her bustier not really looking at anything– and really not able to answer anyone’s query. Somehow we all let her do this– she needed to- and we had the time. Give yourself the gift of time.
5) Good Nutrition. Eat well before you walk down that aisle! If you have nothing to sustain you for the activities ahead, you will miss so much! Protein and carbs are a must. Every two hours nibble on something; non-chocolate (don’t want chocolate to melt on your clothing!) energy bars are good for this.
6) Good Pre-planning. Great Vendors. Do not leave anything on your “to do” list for the actual day of your wedding. Your responsibilities are done – fini. Today it is all in the hands of the good vendors you hired. Give yourself credit that you have hired quality professionals and let them do what they do best. Your responsibility today is to get pampered and enjoy the ride.
7) Choose the right partner. If you are saying yes to the right person, it is a perfect day!

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Okay EBs (Experienced Brides) share with our Brides-to-be (B2Bs) what allowed you to cherish every moment of your wedding day.